Jax Taylor and Brittany Cartwright Only Had Sex This Often Before Breakup

Jax Taylor and Brittany Cartwright lost their spark long before announcing their separation earlier this year.

In fact, the estranged couple detailed their surprisingly sex-less relationship on The Valley months before she announced in February that they have broken up after four years of marriage.

"When Jax and I first met, it was awesome," Brittany recounted on the Bravo series' April 9 episode. "We were having sex all the time, 24/7. We didn't miss a day. And then it has just changed dramatically. I'm talking twice in the past year."

But after welcoming son Cruz in 2021, the Vanderpump Rules alums noted the full-time responsibility of parenthood took precedent over their intimate time together.

"We've put the kid first for so long and he's always gonna come first," Brittany told Jax, "but we still have to be strong."

As Jax saw it, expanding their family would only put further strain on their marriage troubles. "If we're gonna have more kids, we're gonna go further apart," the 44-year-old worried. "So we can't allow that to happen."

In a confessional, Jax got even more candid about their issues in the bedroom.

"I think it's safe to say that the romantic spark is just not there right now," he admitted. "I will take blame. Yeah, I let that spark fizzle. It's not fair to either one of us. Especially it's not fair to my wife. She deserves to have a man be loving to her."

Later in the episode, Jax bonded with costars Jesse Lally and Danny Booko over how welcoming kids impacted their sex lives.

"I'm lacking in the intimacy part," Jax shared. "I feel like we have to schedule it."

Despite previously wanting "sex three, four times a day all day" with the 35-year-old, Jax added, "Now it's like, 'Do we do it this month?'"

As it turns out, he and Brittany actually predicted the troubles in their marriage before they started a family. 

"I remember when Brittany was pregnant we were making jokes like, 'We're never gonna have sex again,'" he recounted in a confessional. "I'm not gonna lie, it has been a little bit of an issue because, you know, your marriage and your sex life kind of take a back seat when you have a child. It's a big deal and I don't want it to become a bigger deal."

See the stars' marriage troubles continue to play out when The Valley airs Tuesdays at 9 p.m. on Bravo.

And keep reading for a full timeline of Jax and Brittany's breakup. 

Years before they even got married, Jax Taylor cheated on Brittany Cartwright in 2017 when he hooked up with former SUR waitress Faith Stowers. 

"This isn't my first time being caught cheating," Jax admitted at the time as the drama played out on Vanderpump Rules. "In the past, I've gone through months and months of deny, deny, deny, and that didn't work for me." 

But while a devasted Brittany broke up with him, they got back together months later and eventually wed in 2020.

Fast forward to February 2024, Brittany announced she and Jax—who share 2-year-old son Cruz—had separated after four years of marriage. 

"Yes, marriages in general are very hard and I've had a particularly rough year this past year," the Kentucky native shared on their When Reality Hits podcast. "Jax and I are taking time apart and I made the decision to move into another home to take some space for the sake of my mental health."

"I'm taking one day at a time," Brittany added. "I don't know what the future holds, but right now my focus is on being the best mom to Cruz."

One month later, the cracks in the couple's relationship became much more apparent when Bravo released the trailer for its new series The Valley.

"I don't feel like he's attracted to me, we don't have sex ever," Brittany admitted in the March 11 preview before Jax added, "It's so hard to be married sometimes."

Plus, costar Janet Caperna teased in the clip, "There's a rumor about Jax cheating online."

However, Jax slammed allegations of infidelity days after the trailer release.

"We're just having a little communication issues right now. That's all, there's nothing else," he exclusively told E! News March 14 at The Valley premiere party. "There's no cheating. There's no infidelity anywhere. It's just communication. I know it's shocking, but people sometimes just don't get along and that's life."

"We see each other every single day," he added. "The only thing that's different is we just don't sleep under the same roof. That's it."

Despite rumors, Brittany confirmed Jax cheating did not cause their breakup and shared the true timeline of their separation.

"We got into a very bad fight and I decided to pack up my stuff," the 35-year-old exclusively told E! News March 18, "and I've been staying in an Airbnb since January 24."

"I'm doing it for my mental space," she added, "and I feel very strong with my decision to get out for a while."

Despite their personal drama, the estranged couple agreed on one thing: They are doing what's best for 2-year-old son.

"He's no. 1 and we both agree on that," Jax told E!. "It's about knowing he's got two loving parents that love him to death and he's gonna have the best life possible, whether we are together or not."

As for their increased fighting, Brittany agreed, "I just don't want that for our son. I don't want him growing up thinking it's normal to live like that."

Brittany admitted in March that "there's always hope," but she just needs Jax to put in the work.

"I don't think anybody will ever love Jax the way I've loved Jax," Brittany told E!. "Over all these years, I've been through so much with him and I'm stuck by his side through everything. So I think that if he makes certain changes that I've asked, maybe we could get back together. But right now, I just really need to figure out myself. I felt really strong and really proud of myself for being able to step out and do what's right for me. My mental health is super important."

One person who wasn't so shocked by Jax and Brittany's separation? Their former SUR boss Lisa Vanderpump.

"Everybody predicted that when they got married," the Real Housewives alum shared with E!. "They said, 'Oh this won't last long,' but I kind of never liked to draw conclusions."

"I don't know what the reason was," she added, "but I imagine it was probably something to do with Jax's bad behavior. I'm not sure, but the indicator of future behavior is normally past behavior."

"I think it’s for the best," their longtime friend Scheana Shay told E! News March 23 of the split. "I think she deserves better and she deserves a partner who’s going to treat her with respect."

And the couple's The Valley costar Kristen Doute agreed with Scheana.

"I'm proud of Brittany for setting boundaries for making the choice for her," Kristen admitted. "But I'm very hopeful that they can work this out. But that's on Jax, that's not on her."

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